A proposal is one of life's most emotional moments — as significant as it is personal. It's natural to want to make it truly special, but it's also easy to feel overwhelmed and unsure where to start. Our experience shows that the best proposals are those that feel personal — just like you two. This guide will take you step-by-step through the planning, from choosing the ring to the moment itself and the time after.
Start with the ring — or with the moment?
There's no right or wrong answer to what comes first — the ring or the proposal itself. Some prefer to have the ring ready before they start planning, while others know exactly when they want to pop the question and choose the ring afterward. Both approaches work equally well. The most important thing is to do it at your own pace and let the decision settle in.
Are you unsure which style suits your partner best? Then our Try at Home service can be a great way to confidently make your choice. You can order several rings to try at home for free, see which ones feel right, and then choose at your leisure. This removes much of the pressure of having to guess correctly the first time.
Do you want to get inspired before deciding? Feel free to browse our collection.
How to discreetly find out the ring size
One of the most common questions we get is: how do I find out the ring size without giving anything away? Here are some tips from us:
- If your partner already wears a ring on their left ring finger, this is often the best way to find the correct size. Measure the inner diameter of the ring, or take it to a jeweler for help. Keep in mind that the size can vary between different fingers, so always use the correct hand and finger.
- Ask someone close to them. A sister, brother, or best friend might know, or can find out without raising suspicions.
And if you still get it slightly wrong: don't worry. All our rings include complimentary resizing, so the fit can be adjusted afterward.
You can find all measurements and tips in our size guide.
Choose the right moment — not necessarily the biggest one
It's easy to think that a proposal has to be something grand — a trip, a surprise, or a perfectly staged moment. But often, it's the simpler moments that feel most right.
Consider what suits you both. If you're homebodies, a quiet evening together might be enough. If you enjoy being outdoors, a walk in a place that means something to you could be just right. It could just as easily be a dinner at home or a weekend you've already been looking forward to.
The most important thing is not how it looks, but how it feels. A proposal is best when it reflects you — not someone else's idea of how it "should" be.
Prepare — but let go of perfectionism
Of course, it's nerve-wracking to propose; it would be strange if it wasn't. Think about what you want to convey, but don't feel it has to be perfectly formulated or rehearsed beforehand. The most important thing is that it feels genuine. You don't need a script — simply saying what you truly feel, in your own way, goes a long way.
Often, it's the simple and spontaneous moments that make the occasion memorable. It doesn't need to be more complicated than that.
After the 'yes' — celebrate and take it easy
Once you've settled into the moment, it can be nice to just take it easy. Call your closest family and friends, celebrate in your own way, or just let it be a moment between the two of you.
You don't need to rush ahead immediately. Take some time to get used to the idea and enjoy this period before the focus shifts to everything that comes next.
When everyday life catches up, we are here if anything needs adjusting. Does the ring not fit perfectly? We'll resize it free of charge. Do you want to add a personal touch? We are happy to engrave a date, initials, or a short message inside the ring — also free of charge.
Read more about our complimentary engraving.
We are here every step of the way
No matter where you are in the planning — whether you're just starting to consider it or already have the ring in your pocket — you are welcome to contact us. We are happy to help you find the right ring, the right size, and the right feeling.
Do you want to bounce ideas off us? Contact us
We at Coliène wish you a memorable proposal — and a wonderful start to your time as an engaged couple.